You want me to do WHAT for 30 days?!?!

My grandma and mom read my blog posts, so I’m a little leery when it comes to writing about sex. But let’s be real. We do it. And heck, if my mom didn’t do it, I wouldn’t even be here. {Ew, gross. Okay, moving on…} But the hubs and I did something recently that completely made me rethink my views on sex and relationships, and so now I want to challenge you to do it too…


Yep, you read right. Sex for 30 days straight. I can’t explain where I got the idea. I’m guessing I heard it somewhere because when I googled it I found out a pastor challenged the married people in his congregation to have sex for 30 days. For me, it was our anniversary, and I was out of gift ideas so I presented a cute card and the “challenge” as the surprise. And there you go.

We started 4 days early so I could “bank” a few days in case something came up.  30 days {well, 34 days} came and went. And it happened. Some days were fun, some days were sneaky, and honestly, on some days the last thing either of us wanted to do was have sex. But, we did it. And so should you.

30 Day Sex Challenge

And in case you need a little extra push, here’s 10 reasons why you should…

  1. It spices things up. Some days you may only have 5 minutes to make it happen. The kids are on the ipad in the other room? You are letting them eat a bag of gummy bears so they will keep busy? Whatever. They are occupied. You guys are giggling and rushing around. It’s fun.
  2. You learn new things about your partner. We have been married for 7 years, and I’ll honestly say during this challenge we have had the best sex ever.
  3. You don’t have to come up with an excuse not to have sex. Because it’s going to happen whether you like it or not. {Harsh? It’s true.}
  4. Men who have more sex are happier. Seriously. My husband was on cloud 9 for weeks.
  5. Sometimes sex is better when you are annoyed at the other person. Ever avoided sex because you got into a fight? I mean, the last thing you want to do is have sex with someone when you’re mad at them. But on the challenge, you have too…so you do. Bets are you will probably forget why you were mad once all is said and done.
  6. Are you in a rut? Not anymore. There’s nothing like breaking a rut or a routine than being forced to try something new.
  7. You learn that you really do have time for sex. I know, I know. Some days I AM TIRED. I am tired of people hanging on my body or taking care of little ones. I just want to curl up in my bed with a magazine and a melatonin gummy and enjoy the peace and quiet. So on the challenge, you usually rush it…but then realize it’s worth it after all.
  8. It’s an easy gift. Like I mentioned, I presented the idea of a challenge to the hubs on our anniversary. Bets are, he will remember *that* gift for years to come. {You could even get a book with different positions and check them off!}
  9. Did I mention your husband will be happier. Like, all the time?
  10. After sex, have you ever said to yourself, “Why don’t we do this more often?” Exactly! Why don’t you?!? Start now!!

Yes, my sex life is a very personal thing, and I REALLY debated about sharing this with you guys. So I had my husband read over it first, and he approved. We both agree that talking about this sort of thing can help others. And you know, I started the sex challenge as something to make my husband happy. But as it turns out, it made me pretty happy too. We are closer together than ever before, and the lines of communication about sex and our relationship in general is stronger than ever.  A definite win, win for us both!

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Andrea S
Andrea is wife to her sweetheart Brandon and mom to Claire {Aug 2009} and Daisy {Sept 2012}…otherwise known as the “ABCD Crew.” After working as a full-time TV producer for more than a decade, Andrea now does freelance producing and content writing. Her favorites :: Jesus, running the greenbelts in Kingwood, smoothies, red wine, thrifting and 10 minute power naps. She would love to connect with you on her blog, on Pinterest {Andrea Slaydon}, or through Twitter {@AndreaSlaydon}.


  1. What a brave post, Andrea! I’ve been married 18 years and if I’ve learned anything about married sex, it’s this: When the sex is good, it counts for about 10%; when it’s “troubled” (there’s probably a better word), it counts for about 90%!
    I have no doubt that you just poured yourself out as an offering for the greater good of marriages!
    Thank you for this!

  2. Thanks for sharing with us. I don’t understand why sex is such a taboo subject, when that is the reason each one of us are here.

    My husband has mentioned a few times that we should “accept” this challenge after hearing it on the radio. Of course, he did, right? But I am TIRED at the end of the day, and I don’t want to fail him or our marriage. Maybe this will give other woman the motivation to do it, since all of the reasons you should are awesome!

  3. Whoa! I cant even wrap my head around having sex three times a week much less every single day!…..buuuttttt it does sounds kinda fun! Btw, I live by Kingwood! Hi! 🙂

  4. i just ran across this article and agree 100% and once wives discover how much easier life is with a very happy husband they will wonder why they don’t have sexy almost every single day of their lives.


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